Tell us about yourself
My name is Lilian, I am semi-retired, and I have 4 children and 6 grandchildren. For 28-years I ran my own business in the clothing industry, firstly NZ made and latterly including the importing and wholesaling of clothing, supplying schools, clubs, groups, retail, and the public. Due to the skills learnt during my business years, I now work with a large accounting company, doing the website maintenance, emailing of updates, and design of logos, letterheads, business cards and other associated promotional products. I am also a volunteer with the Citizen’s Advice Bureau (CAB) which is both challenging and a great learning experience.
Tell us about your hearing loss and when you first noticed it
To be honest, I never thought I had a hearing problem, I thought it was just that people didn’t speak up or enunciate properly, especially the young ones who mumble constantly, and I had to ask them to repeat nearly everything they said. Although my kids and grandkids thought I was going deaf - I laid the blame on them. I did notice that in groups of people I had trouble hearing but put that down to the noisiness in cafes, where there is often music playing, which you sometimes need to shout over to be heard and to hear. I got myself some earphones so I could hear the TV, especially Neon and Netflix, but put that down to the poor quality of the sound, even though we have the latest smart TV with good quality sound. So basically, I was living in denial.
Prior to getting a hearing aid, how did your hearing loss impact your life?
I didn’t realise how much my hearing loss really impacted my life until I got hearing aids, that was when I realised what I was missing out on. Not hearing properly had started to make me feel a bit ‘dumbed down’ due to the difficulty I had in hearing conversations, it made me feel as if I wasn’t a part of life as much as I had been. My kids started to talk to me like I had an intellectual disability, speaking to me in slow, loud and concise sentences like I was a child, which didn’t help with my self-esteem much. When I used my earphones for TV, I isolated myself from everyone, I couldn’t hear what was happening around me without taking off my earphones, not even the phone. My poor hubby was starting to feel a bit lonely, so it impacted on our relationship.
At what point did you realise you needed to do something about your hearing?
I got a blocked ear so rang the doctor to get my ear syringed, they referred me to Abby to have wax extraction done. I happened to mention to Abby that now the wax was extracted, maybe my hearing will improve because my kids reckon, I am going deaf. She asked me if I would like a hearing test, to which I said “no” because you will probably tell me I need hearing aids which I don’t want or need. She said “no, that’s not what we are about, if I don’t think you need them, I will tell you.” That satisfied me so I went ahead and had a hearing test and guess what? – the computer doesn’t lie. The evidence was right in front of me – I had a hearing problem. Abby patiently and carefully went over all the options with me, and I decided to do something about it, so I got hearing aids.
Did you do any research about hearing solutions before coming to Hobsonville Hearing?
No, I did no research, if it hadn’t been for my blocked ear I would have just continued as I was. I have done more research and learnt more after coming to Hobsonville Hearing due to Abby. She is extremely knowledgeable and has taught me a lot about how hearing problems impact lives, both psychologically in relation to isolation, feeling left out and stupid, and physiologically with the links to dementia, cognitive abilities, and aging.
Tell us about your hearing aid journey and how it has impacted your day-to-day life
The impact of hearing aids on my life has been immense. I now hear every word that people say, even in crowded restaurants, meetings and cafes which means I can actively take part in social occasions and keep up with the play. The TV has been turned down, and the earphones have been dispensed with. I can have a conversation with people while TV is on and be a part of the group. In fact, I often ask that the sound be turned down on the TV as it is too loud – amazing! Normally I would have it at full volume and often with subtitles on as well. Have you ever tried ‘reading’ a movie? - not recommended!
The other thing I have noticed is that my memory has improved, I can remember names and events so much easier, I reckon my cognitive skills have sharpened up a lot which has added to my confidence. I have my hearing aids tuned into my iphone which is marvellous, I can listen to podcasts, hear when my phone rings and when a message comes in. That’s a win-win situation.
The service I received from Abby has been unquestionable, she has given me the confidence to go ahead and get hearing aids, to embrace the experience and to get the most out of it. I was worried that it would make me feel old, but to the contrary it has made me feel younger and surer of myself. I wish I had done it years ago.