2. YOU NEED A NEW ENVIRONMENT FOR GROWTH (EXODUS 2:11-25)
In our marriage program, and the 2 were United, we dig deeply into the importance of creating a space, an entirely new space, in your home that allows for you and your spouse to begin growing from your broken places. Removing yourself to this new environment does not mean you are trying to escape or hide from your problems, but that you and your spouse recognize the need to remove yourselves as a couple to begin healing properly. While in this environment, it is important to recognize the need for purposeful communication and authentic relationship building skills.
3. GOOD COUNSEL IS ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY (PSALMS 37:30)
You can call me bias if you want, but I am a huge supporter of counseling- individual counseling, crisis counseling, marriage counseling, and family counseling. I truly believe that God has gifted certain people to not just be good listeners, but crusaders in the journey right next to another person who is struggling in those areas. Every counselor that I have ever met or worked with (granted I have not met and/or worked with a million of them...) has a testimony of their own that provides that element of trust with those they are counseling. I've been there too friend. I completely understand. It's not just you. You are not alone. In a broken marriage, or even just a ripping at the seems marriage, it can be the difference between reconcilation and divorce having a neutral body who can listen openly and allow you to express yourself freely without fear of judgement or ridicule.
However, please remember, the ulitmate counselor is God. His word, the Holy spirit, and His guidance are the first steps to growth in marriage. I am not sure how any marriages function without the counsel of the One who created the institue of marriage in the first place.
If you are serious about your marriage and the direction it ultimately goes, you are going to have to work at it. No great marriage has ever progressed successfully without hard work. If marriage was easy, everyone would do it. It takes a committment on your part (yes- YOU!) to stay the course even when things seem pretty pointless. It takes resolve, patience, and a death grip on God every step of the way.
I pray these tips encouraged you!!
Peace, love, and Strength